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feel bad

i was really depressed when i was pregnant and so since baba has been born i have been seeing my friends quite a lot and having some 'me' time maybe one a week/fortnight, im glad of it really since i spend all other time lookin after her on my own ... and my mum babysits while i see my friends etc.
recently gone back to college, only got 4 weeks left but involves long hours on 4/5 days a week. feel guilty leaving baba with my mum while i go college and then while i go out for a few hours at weekend. should i stop going out until my college course finishEs? x

by laurenella 6 June 2010

  • Aww bless you! I wouldnt stop going out you only go out once a week, your at college getting a education try not to feel guilty because you are doing nothing wrong! Its not like you leaving the baby at home all the time to go partying! Sounds like your doing a great job :) x

    by Saffy 6 June 2010

  • i'm having to leave lottie nearly every day with my mum for exams, and she knows that i feel bad about it and that i am extremely grateful for it. im sure your mum knows how you feel, but it is only for a few more weeks, and at then end of it you will have a qualification that will help you and LO in the future! xxx

    by 6 June 2010

  • @laurenella - you're a busy mum and working hard at college. If you don't have some "me time" to unwind and be yourself, you'll end up frazzled out. If you were out drinking every night without a care in the world for you child, then that would be different. But all you're doing is trying to better yourself and get an education with the occasion "time out" to spend with friends and socialise. There's no harm in that at all.

    Relax :D x

    by intuition 6 June 2010

  • thankyou @LoveMyLottie @Saffy & @intuition.... appreciate all your sayin and glad you understand where im comin from but still feel bad you know what i mean :) xx

    by laurenella 6 June 2010