I am 35 weeks and 4 days pregnant and i have been through so much. I lost my first child at 21 weeks and got pregnant 6 weeks later with the same guy. My parents dont like him because he smokes weed and stuff and i have distanced myself away from him because of what he done to me in the past, he cheated on me so many times and i can never forget it so me and him can never be together, not even for the babys sake. Well for my babys surname, i wanted him to have his dad's surname but my mum and my whole family are saying i should give him my surname, for some reason i think my family are right but i dont know, the reason why i want my baby to have my surname is because not once has his so-called dad bought one thing for him, ever since i got pregnant he hasnt provided at all for my baby even though he has not arrived yet, but i am the one who bought the buggy, his cot, all his clothings, basically everything, and baby daddy hasnt bought him not even one thing, even though two weeks ago he bought two jackets which i rejected and returned back to him. Any money he gets, he doesnt give it to me. When he gets his benefits, he goes to the betting shop and uses all his benefit on the machine which is a piss take as he has a son on the way and he is meant to buy things for him, he cant even go look for a job, he spends everyday at the betting shop, its like hes addicted to that place. I feel my baby does not deserve his surname because he hasnt done one thing for the baby at all. Do you think i have made the right choice for my son to have my surname and not his dad's surname?
by bossladyp92 29 January 2012
I was only going to have my boyfriends surname but he wants both of ours in there so mine is like an extra middle name, but he has been there the whole time and brought things and all that! Personally I don't think your baby's dad deserves to have his surname as your little boys but I do think its nice for it to be in there, maybe like what I am doing but keep your last name as your little boys last name so then at least it is in there! On the other hand if he isn't supporting you then I think you have ever right to keep his last name out completely! But its all up to you, even if you do put his name in there doesn't mean your baby has to use it when he is older, if you understand
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by NicoleLepage 29 January 2012
@NicoleLepage, yeah i was thinking of the double-barrel surname too, but it got my sister a bit annoyed and she said i shouldnt even think about putting his name anywhere in his name, so i guess its gonna be my surname
by bossladyp92 29 January 2012
I'd just use your surname. If he isn't going to support this baby then why should you give your child a last name that means something negative to you... Where I live you can't register your baby for school or nursery and you can't take your baby to doctors unless they have the same last name as you who's taking/registering them... because of that we've decided to double-barrell our last names as me and the dad live together so will be raising our baby together.
by LilynCrumb 29 January 2012
Yeah I do agree that if he isn't supporting you or the baby then he doesn't deserve it, If my boyfriend wasn't supporting me and our little lady then I wouldn't have his surname in there either! x
by NicoleLepage 29 January 2012
@LilynCrumb Oh really and yeah true, hes bad news to me
by bossladyp92 29 January 2012