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New Fella Perhaps?

Hii Im new to this site!
I split up with my daughters father when i was 4 months pregnant (He was violent and a druggie) Emmas now 8 months old, And ive started talking to this lad, he has a son and hes lovely! He really is..

But after having Emma and been with my ex im really self concious and scared about letting another man into not only mine but my daughters life.

Any tips? Anyone been in the same situation regarding new men in their lives?

by BeckiAndEmma 18 April 2010

  • Becki, i know just like everyone else does that you deserve a nice man, plus he has a child so he's in the same boat.
    Take a chance and try because you'll never know what can happen and if you don't you'll only regret it later x

    by DarceyMyLove 18 April 2010

  • I know how you feel hun. I split with DS's bio father at 12weeks pg due to it being an emotionally/psycholoogically abusive relationship. Havent seen him since.

    I met my partner when DS was 5months old. I was absolutely terrified. I was worried about getting hurt again, I was worried about Toby getting attached to someone new and then us breaking up. i was worried that this could be the start of dragging a whole string of men in and out of my sons life. I was worried that my new bloke would turn out to be like my ex, that I wasnt ready... I messed him about for quite a while because I was so scared.

    But I realised that if I got my heart broken, I could cope. If we broke up, DS was young enough to get over it. If he turned out to be manipulative and hurtful, I could break up with him. But if I walked away I could be passing up on something that could have the potential to make all of us very happy.

    I took a deep breath, trusted my heart, and tried hard to hold onto my believe that everything happens for a reason. (Gosh that sounds corny lol)

    Anyway, we've been together for 2.5 years now. He's raising DS as his own, and DS has called him 'Daddy' for as long as he could talk. (with no prompting from us). We're getting married in the Autumn.

    I'm not saying this will happen for you straight away. But trust your instincts on this. Do you think he will make you happy?

    by Earthmummy 18 April 2010

  • Kels thanks ILY!

    Awwh and thank you! EarthMummy :) He sounds like a lovely man!

    Your right i shouldnt be afraid i should just go for it :)x

    by BeckiAndEmma 18 April 2010