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Did anyone worry they might not bond with a baby they may have?

Today I had a thought just randomly come across my mind, I suddenly thought what if when I do have a baby and they are born I look at them and don't feel they are mine? I'm so scared that when I do have a baby that I will get postnatal depression because I have normal depression and have for about 6yrs now. I know they say you can't know how you will feel, but has anyone else worried about that? x

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by lifes_a_test 26 January 2012

  • 100% yes! I worried I wouldn't like my baby n that I wouldn't want to know them n that I would get post Natal depression as throughout my pregnancy life was awful (my grandmother died, bf left me, friends turned on me, kicked out etc.....) but when she was born all worry like that disappeared. When it all sunk in that that lil tiny beautiful baby in the cot was my alexa I couldn't keep my eyes off her. O fellow in love hard! All I wanted to do was hold her n protect her from the world. Its true that u never felt true love til u have a child. There will be good days n bad days when u do have a baby, like last night alexa wasn't well n she slet for 20mins at a time, so I'm pretty knackered! But there are also fantastic days! N thier smiles, hugs, n just knowing they love u no matter what makes everything easier! Its natural to be scared n worry might what happen, but aslong as IF u do feel down or anythin that u talk to someone n share everything, let it out n u will probs feel alot better! Theres always help available if needed just don't ever be to scared to ask cuz someone would have felt or gone through the same thing. Important to remember ur never alone sweetie. Xx

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    by xxSarahJanex 26 January 2012