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Reflections on being a young mum

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Hi my name is Yvonne, I am 24 years old, a single parent with two children age 4 and 5.  I am a motivated person who recently discovered my passion that I wanted to become a Life Coach to coach young mums with personal development, and any other aspect of their lives.

I actually started making videos because of this wonderful lady that I met at a business seminar. She encouraged me to start making videos on Youtube and straight away I thought this lady is crazy. What am I going to say over the internet plus who will listen to me “I’m just Yvonne” Little did I know that was fear and limiting beliefs talking to me in my mind. Even though I was so scared, I refused to listen to that voice. I thought to myself I have more to gain than to lose so take her advice and do your best.

So I made my first video, I was extremely nervous but day by day it got easier. It was amazing. I absolutely loved making videos in my bedroom because I got to discover something new about who I was as a young parent. I realised I had a talent, loved to talk, loved to share my experiences and most off I wanted to coach. Watch my videos.

Since becoming a teen mum I learnt so many different life changing things. It was an emotional rollercoaster especially as I didn’t ever plan to have children so young or close in age! I had my daughter at age 18 and son at age 19. Both times were unplanned but I still decided to go ahead with the pregnancies. Luckily I had good babies that didn’t cry much. But what really amazed me was despite my circumstances and my age I was filled up with so much love for my children and knew instantly I wanted more out of life for them. Looking back on where I started it’s been an everyday course because as a parent you learn something new. I don’t regret my children as they bring me joy and happiness and most of all they complete my character, they complete me.

One thing I wish I’d known when I became a young mum:

1. I wish I had known that no matter how you plan your life with the father of child it may not work out not only because you're young parents, but because you have different paths in life and no matter how hard you try it will not change because you cannot change what is destined to be.

Things I believe young mums should remember:

1. Remember you are human so you’re bound to make mistakes as there is no mum instruction book. You learn new things everyday as a mum. So don’t feel sad or bad when something isn’t going your way. Just always try to be better than yesterday.

2. Treat yourself to something new as it’s not crime to buy yourself something even its just a top. As what tends to happen in most cases, we get so used to spending on our children, and when it’s time to spend on ourselves we feel very guilty. We start to compare what we want to a price of nappies which is wrong. It’s important to treat yourself, it helps with your confidence so don’t feel bad!!

3. Babies do not hold you back from achieving any dream you once had before you had a baby. Having a baby young just means you may have to find alternative route to support you and your baby. So don’t give up ever!

4. Being a young mum doesn’t define who you are; your choices and actions define who you are.

5. It’s not what people call you; it’s what you answer to. So be careful what you answer to as you shouldn’t let negative words define you such as baby mum think about how those words describe young mums. You’re more than a baby mum you’re a mother.

6. Always try your very hardest to remember you are your children’s role model so please try to lead by example in anything you do.Your child is watching everything you do.

7. Last but not least as I have many things I believe a mum should remember but to me this is so important. Especially as a young mum we forget to take a time to BREATH as we think it’s a crime to have a break or a day to charge back up especially if you’re a single parent. It’s vital you take a break as you’re playing mum and dad so you need to chill out too! Yes motherhood is 24-7 job but what good are you to anyone burnt out. Remember this HEALTH IS WEALTH so be good to your body!!

Watch Yvonne's videos on Youtube>> 

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  • Glad you found it useful Evel565 :)

    by Yvonne17 27 November 2012

  • reading this has just made me think of everything in a better light:') thankyou!!

    by evel565 7 November 2012

  • Hi Mumma_Issie, really happy my blog helped you think about certain things in your life as its all about progress :)

    by Yvonne17 3 October 2012

  • hey watched a few of your videos and think theyre great and i like this blog gave me some things to think about :) x

    by Mumma_Issie 21 September 2012

  • Being a mum is certainly a tough job as its an going journey. The rewards are amazing BigMuma but as mothers we always have a chance to do our dream jobs even if we have to take an alternative route. No matter how long it may take us.

    by Yvonne17 20 September 2012

  • Being a mum is tough but very rewarding. I can't do my dream job but the job I do now ( full time mum to a 2yr old and 4yr old) is so much better. I get paid in love :) xxx

    by BigMuma 20 September 2012

  • Hi Shann3794, unfortunately many young mothers do not take their jobs seriously, because being a mother is a life changing experience; that empowers you to be the best parent ever. But sadly many young mums give up and feel they have nothing to offer. But We have a choice to become the very best person and role model to our children .

    by Yvonne17 17 September 2012

  • So happy I could boost your confidence as it's so important for you to the very best person you can Be because you have so much potential :)

    by Yvonne17 17 September 2012

  • So true! Love this, so nice to see someone supporting and standing up for all of us 'young mums.' Pretty sad how the minority of people can give everyone a bad name xx

    by Shann3794 17 September 2012

  • Your advice is amazing...really boosted my confidence and self belief :) Thank you x

    by Holzan 15 September 2012

  • Paige-mae your doing a great job raising your child, as people can only pass judgement as they have nothing better to do with their lives than to call you names. Keep your head up high as you know your doing the very best you can to be a mother despite your age. There are many teenage mothers who do not look after their children they just pass their kids around because they can't be bothered to face responsibility of being a parent. So be very proud of yourself as your no SLUT!! Your a GREAT mother :)

    by Yvonne17 11 September 2012

  • Its true young parents whether mums or dads shouldn't be judged. As being a young parent doesn't make you a bad parent. Its how you raise your children and what norms and values you teach your children that determines your parenting skills not your age.

    by Yvonne17 11 September 2012

  • other teenagers call me a slut but I've raised a child,all they've done is sit in the park at night with a bottle of vodka

    by 9 September 2012

  • You shouldn't judge a young mum before you know anything about her, The same with young dads.

    by Jessica_ess 2 September 2012

  • Its true its wrong that young mums get judged! But its something that will continue as people are so ignorant to the fact that young girls can also make great mothers too despite being young!

    by Yvonne17 30 August 2012

  • It Is Totally Unfair That Young Mums Are Judged x

    by BethKean 30 August 2012

  • Dont Think Its Fair That Young Mums Are Judged:L Not Everyone Understands It!

    by 29 August 2012

  • Your so right honey baby how dare someone automatically judge young mums and single mothers because your pushing a buggy. Its not right and i think that's added pressure for teenagers who may not be comfortable with their pregnancies, in the beginning let alone strangers looking down on a young mum. Single mum get judged also especially if they are not married or this normal nuclear family. You get judged straight away. Which is very inappropriate . Us young mums still the opportunity to be SUCCESSFUL women

    by Yvonne17 24 August 2012

  • Wow yeah everyone sterotypes young mums into girls or women who get around a lot when thats not the case most of the time

    by honeybaby 24 August 2012

  • Hi Mrshowell21, thanks for watching my videos really appreciate it. Mothers are amazing we need more support and encouragement. As being a mum is a 24-7 job

    by Yvonne17 23 August 2012

  • Hi Sashaxo, thanks for reading my blog. Yes its really important to understand your a value as a young mother, because so many young mothers answer to baby mum like its a fashion statement. Baby mum is very degrading it doesn't sound positive. It defines you without you having to say anything. Are you just a baby mum? Of course not your a person of value and worth. So think about how it feels when being called a mother its uplifting , positive and most of all carries a wonderful meaning. Mothers should be respected at all times regardless of being a young mum, single mum etc

    by Yvonne17 23 August 2012

  • Hi Mummy_lewis, its so true that young mothers are seen really bad these days because were seen as children having children so automatically were seen as failures. But then being a young mum doesn't make you a failure. As for your mum she done an amazing job raising four children at age 24. How are you finding motherhood?

    by Yvonne17 23 August 2012

  • Hi Ali-munchkin, thank you for reading my blog I really appreciate it. Yes I definitely believe in bettering yourself because we have so much opportunities to achieve to be the best person and mother.

    by Yvonne17 23 August 2012

  • This was such a nice read! I never really thought about defining what you answer to as a young parent, especially 'baby mum'.. I know so many people who are labelled that, that I didn't even think to see it as derrogatory! I think it's so nice you're giving other mothers the determination/confidence with your videos xx

    by sashaxo 23 August 2012

  • This is a great read, I'm really impressed with your video's and I think its nice for you to help others and everything you say is correct. us mothers do alot and we deserve some praise, young or old. :P

    by mrshowell21 23 August 2012

  • I think the perception of young mothers is really bad nowadays. My mum had 4 children by the time she was 24 and to me she didnt nothing wrong in my upbringing that I wouldnt do in my son's. Thankyou for your advice though. It helps to know that there are people out there who can make a positive out of something that is frowned upon xx

    by mummy_lewis 20 August 2012

  • This was really nice to read! And your videos are great! I think its great you are trying to better yourself and help others too! xx

    by Ali-munchkin 20 August 2012