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The new sleeping regime is going very well. Before, I used to put Ashleigh and Tegan to bed at the same time. That meant one of them didn't get the attention they needed and whoever seemed to need it most that night would get it for the simplicity of peace and quiet!

I've carried on doing the usual "wind down"  5.30pm Bath time- Tegan out first, dried,nappy on, get dressed, into her bouncy chair whilst I get Ashleigh out and do the same (except the nappy!) Then we do something relaxing like read a book or watch cbeebies bedtime hour. At 6.30pm Tegan has her bottle and Ashleigh a beaker of milk or water. 4 out of the 6 nights I've been planning to try her new sleep pattern she's fallen asleep in my arms so I haven't needed to do anything! She's only woken 3 or 4 times this week compared to the recent 3 or 4 times a night, so I've been enjoying wonderful nights of peaceful sleep!!! The other 2 nights I've given Tegan her milk then laid her in her cot in her room completely pitch black and only switch the lamp on for Ashleigh when she has fallen asleep. It took a few hours of controlled crying and going in and out laying her back down before she fell asleep but I was prepared for this so let Ashleigh sleep in mummys bed which she enjoyed very much! I got a little upset having to let her cry but I knew it was just because she was tired and this will eventually benefit us both. I'm hoping once she starts going to sleep on her own I will have more time to read Ashleigh a bedtime story or sing her a nursery rhyme so she gets the help she needs to get a good nights sleep.

PANIC!!! Tuesday afternoon Ashleigh comes home from school and is slightly grumpy but nothing too unusual- it's hard work playing you know! I decided to give her a bath early as she was covered in paint so popped her in at 2pm. When i got her out she started shaking uncontrollably and crying but I just put it down to the temperature change as it was a bit chilly and tried to dry her as fast as i could and get her dressed. She seemed quite hot so i took her temperature. 42oc OMG!!! I ring NHS direct and they ask me so many questions which at first I felt irrelevant to what I was explaining but better safe than sorry. The lady asks me if she has a runny nose, tummy ache, aches and pains, sore throat etc. I told her I don't think so but I wanted to ring her pre-school just in case. They told me she had been complaining a little bit but was playing alright so they thought she was probably coming down with a cold and had written it down for me but forgot to give me the note! I rang the NHS direct again and carried on with the questions. When the lady said "suspected swine flu", my jaw nearly fell to the floor....how could I not notice this?! Even if it was normal flu, I should have picked up on it. She'd been playing fine since she'd been home.

She's been sleeping alot and lost her appetite completely. It hurts to swallow even water and it was hell getting her to take tamiflu. She was offered a jab against swine flu, but I stand with my decision not to give it to her, as every parent does what they feel is right, I've heard of too many bad side effects. She's recovering well with lots of hugs, kisses and love <3

As for me I've been enjoying myself a bit more this week (apart from the obvious wanting to take my baby girls pain away). I'm getting my implant out on monday and somehow my depression seems a little better just knowing it will all be over soon. I love watching my girls play and grow together, the things Ashleigh can teach her baby sister, the instinct to love each other. Tegan showing that she's worried, even though she can't talk, she shows with emotions and lots of hugs. I'm worried we will all catch it but so far we're not showing any signs.

I will keep you all posted and if there are any specific topics you would like me to talk about in my next blog, just let me know. xxxx

comments

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  • we find bathing kalley before bed makes her more awake so we try to do it in the morning but either way she's a great sleeper it's just trial and error x

    by sammy-lou about 2 days ago

  • My little princess was perfect in hospital, but as soon as i got home she wouldnt sleep in her crib or anything! only in my arms! even to this day she dont like NOT being held and shes now almost 7 weeks, its truly a handful but i blame myself because i held her all the time and hardly put her down when she was born! i hope things get better soon though, talk about exhaustion! xx

    by Abbie-Nakiya about 3 days ago

  • i wish my little girl would sleep right through xx

    by katieava14 about 4 days ago

  • Hope my baby is in a routine straight away or at doesn't take long to get him into one.

    by Mummy-mara 30 January 2012

  • my little girl was horrble at hospital when i had her she kept screaming the place down and when i took her home she was settled and only cried when wanted feeding :)

    by danielle-x 23 January 2012

  • i hope to have my baby in a routine from the start

    by Jess12 18 January 2012

  • my daughter is in full routeen now :D

    by Shannon_mum 17 January 2012

  • i havnt imunised at all , both my boys are in routines x

    by abi19 14 January 2012

  • omg i dont know how i will be able to take my daughter when she is born to get vaccines! (my mum had to ask other people to take me in cos she couldnt do it!) but i am liking the whole bed time plan thing :) x

    by Georgia94 9 January 2012

  • you really have to think twice about some of these new vaccines, i agree with your decision not to get it :)

    by Cherii 7 January 2012

  • Sorrry to annoy you all but i need to comment on this ten times(a) xxx

    by ella101 5 January 2012

  • Sorrry to annoy you all but i need to comment on this ten times(a) xxx

    by ella101 5 January 2012

  • Sorrry to annoy you all but i need to comment on this ten times(a) xxx

    by ella101 5 January 2012

  • Sorrry to annoy you all but i need to comment on this ten times(a) xxx

    by ella101 5 January 2012

  • Aww bless, really hope she's better now! My younger sister came down with it not long ago and it was a total nightmare! <3

    by Shannie 26 December 2011

  • My little boys both have slept right the way though the night from being 2 month onwards its great x

    by jade-bell 30 November 2011

  • my baby girl is sooo content, she only wakes up once or twice during the night for a feed then goes straight back to sleep after :) im blessed x

    by hollie- 17 November 2011

  • @kellyhowell once you get to know your twins you will probably realise when each gets tired but I'd say it would be best to settle them both at the same time or maybe get one settled and then the next subsequently to get them in the same routine. x

    by lifes_a_test 3 November 2011

  • @kellyhowell once you get to know your twins you will probably realise when each gets tired but I'd say it would be best to settle them both at the same time or maybe get one settled and then the next subsequently to get them in the same routine. x

    by lifes_a_test 3 November 2011

  • I hope mine gets into a routine

    by Laurakate199 21 September 2011

  • we've found changing our baby first as he's stirring then straight into a feed keeps him relaxed and goes straight off to sleep again :)

    by 18 September 2011

  • Think it's best to put my twins down at same time ?

    by kellyhowell 4 August 2011

  • Ah bless her. I know how bad I felt when I had swine flu - it's a horrible nasty vile flu! I was 35 weeks pregnant when I had it, came over all dizzy, Mum worried I was going into premature labour as had sharp pains too but they did blood tests & observed me for a while then after a few hour told me I had swine flu & to go home under quarantine & don't leave my room again until I was completely better. At the time I lived in a hostel so I wasn't aloud back & had to stay with my Mum for care & to keep out of the way of all the other 30 people I lived & made contact with daily :) Was horrible & took a few weeks to go over it! Was very scared & was warned if I did go into labour whilst I had it myself & my Son would be extremely poorly but luckily although it didn't feel this way he was 15 days late :P It's probably nothing to do with it but as I had it whilst pregnant & obviously my unborn would have had it to like they said he is not barely ever ill. He never has little sniffles or colds. He's only ever ill if it's mega serious like when he stopped breathing etc but otherwise he catches nothing & I still swear to this day it's due to us having swine flu when he was a fully developed baby inside me. Bit off subject but yeah I've had first had experience of it & you ache non stop which doesn't help when you also have back ache. It's horrible - hope she gets better soon :D xx

    by Babycakes_x 3 August 2011

  • my baby sleeps really good and sorry to here

    by aimee-mae 28 July 2011

  • Im strict wid my 22 month old, when i say bed time, she knows im not playing, she says gd night and i put her to bed. She may sometimes cry but I tell her to stop her noise and go to sleep and she does. I think this is because i am strict with her in the day aswell. If she misbehaves, she gets a warning, if she continues, she goes in the naughty corner! It works wonders AS LONG AS U FOLLOW THROUGH.. otherwise they know ur just chattin rubbish! I defo recommend it.

    by Laura92x 15 July 2011

  • My son is caden his 2 and a right monster when it comes to sleeping his smart his worked out the bedtime routene now haha

    by Cadensdad16 11 July 2011

  • aww sorry to hear your lil girl got swine flu:( my brother had it last year, and hes 18 but he suffered really bad with it.. hope she gets better soon:) Cant wait to have my baby,and have a good routine going with him/her:)x

    by tshaunajade 5 July 2011

  • luckily my bubbas in a good routine :)

    by lucykatelynX 21 June 2011

  • cant wait to have my baby so i can have a routine :)

    by ksg163 18 June 2011

  • i swear by a bath with johnsons bedtime bath a bottle then bed straight after at 8.30 my son falls asleep himself in his cot every night and has done since 5 week old x

    by rachelhannah 15 June 2011

  • Ive started to try to get my 5 week old in to a routine and its horrid but i really need to be able to go to bed before 1 am!

  • But love him dearly :P xx

    by Michael 1 June 2011

  • My son is bad when it come's to bedtime :D

    by Michael 1 June 2011

  • i would love to find a way to get are 14 month old girl into a routine as she still wakes up at 2am but not for a feed she wakes up proberly and wants to play !

    by billy 1 June 2011

  • its is so hard to get them in a routine

    by billy 31 May 2011

  • i have a 14 month old and i still carnt get her into a routine what so ever :/

    by Jade-Marie 31 May 2011

  • I'm trying really hard to get my lo in a routine but its difficult as I often work evenings until 11pm and my oh won't follow the routine he does what he wants to do :/ xx

    by lilmisslexi 17 May 2011

  • Im so glad i did the routine thing early, LO goes in the bath around 6.30-7 and goes to sleep straight after, never had a problem getting him to sleep, im sooo glad cause the coupleof hours to myself is bliss!

    by LaLaaox 20 April 2011

  • Ive managed to have mine in a 6pm bed time routine :) since the youngest was 4months, before that my daughter was still going to bed at 6:30pm, im quite lucky they were easy to get into a routine x

    by iceflower 20 April 2011

  • Hope My Lil Girl Gets In A Routine :) x

    by sazzisarah 20 April 2011

  • i hope my likkle one gets into a routine :)probs wont. but im hoping x

    by kirstybagley 12 April 2011

  • I Simply Can't Get Isabella Into A Routine She Just Doesn't Like Routines. I Don't Know Why It's just Everytime I Try To Put Her Into A Routine She Finds A Way To Get Out Of It. The Cheeky Monkey! :-)

    by bbandbaby 2 April 2011

  • My son has been great getting into a routine, bath, milk, story and bed :) you have to be patient but it def works after a while :)

    by Thjsdnd 1 March 2011

  • ive tryed evreythin to get my lil boy into a routine but will not have any of it. but now he is not as bad he has a bath a lil playtime and milk and bed somtimes he will play up but other times he is a lil star.

    by chan_11 14 February 2011

  • woo!

    by Izzie 9 February 2011

  • HOPE I CAN DO IT AND GET MY BABY BOY IN TO A ROUTIN

    by xjemmadaleyx 3 February 2011

  • Routine is one thing i will deffinatly struggle with! me and boyfirned get distracted wayy to easy!

    by 5headh 29 November 2010

  • I Hope Mines A Good Sleeper Like My Friends When He Arrives x

    by Charlayy 9 November 2010

  • my daughter is a very good sleppier sleeps 4 12 hours nearly all through the next which is lovely x

    by jay-17 7 June 2010

  • my daughter has been a fantastic sleeper she has slept through since she was 10 weeks old, lucky me!! my next child wud prob b totally opposite to lexie-mae lol xx

    by Lexies_mummy 3 June 2010

  • i only have 1 lil girl she had the same rotint till since she was born to now and slept all night from 3 weeks x

    by jay-17 11 May 2010

  • My likkle one needs to be changed and have a bottle before bed other whise theres no chance she will settle but even then most evenings are hell because she hates going to bed and i dont like to leave her to cry so really its my own fault lol. And shes teething at the moment so that doesnt help either <3

    by my_princess 27 April 2010

  • my son had his tea n watches tv ...then has a bath around 6 then cbeebies bedtime hour till 7 then goes in his cot n watches chuggington on dvd or maybe lazzy town den e falls asleep not long after :)

    by kimbob 4 April 2010

  • @Amz_n_Tianna you have to try and make them the same whether it means waking her up to keep to the same schedule or w.e. This is my daily routine and i stick to it no matter what. I have to be home before dinner and if we're out we have to sit down and have dinner and get home as soon as we can after. 7am wake up 7.15 breakfast for both girls 7.30 bottle for tegan while ashleigh has juice/milk 7.45 get dressed (all 3 of us) then wash faces and brush teeth 8.15 girls sit and watch tv or play with toys while i get make up on (seriously need it from the lack of sleep!!!) When i'm done we might read a book or something then get ashleighs school bag ready. 9am walk ashleigh to pre-school. 9.30 get home and put tegan to bed- i'll either nap or watch a dvd, maybe tidy up if it's got a bit messy! 11.25 wake tegan up and get our coats on then leave to pick ashleigh up 11.45 arrive at school and walk home 12pm get home and make lunch ready for 12.30 -After lunch we will go for a walk or go to the shops- just something to pass the time. Sometimes we go to the soft play area. 4pm dinner time! 5.30 bath time 6 get dressed into pjs and give tegan night time milk. they have wind down time now with no tv or high energy games. reading a book or playing with puzzles is ashleighs favourite. 6.50 put the girls in bed. ashleigh falls straight to sleep but i do controlled crying with tegan. Only takes about 5 minutes for her to fall asleep and then i do whatever the hell i want until about 10 when i go to sleep :)

    by LittleMumma 29 March 2010

  • getting my little girl into a routine is a nightmare, no 2 days r the same!! xx

    by Amz_n_Tianna 27 March 2010

  • my baby 6 weeks old or she wants to do is be awake never sleep soo i always bath her before bed that helps

    by lil-lou-lou 16 March 2010

  • @minikirst the sleep is defo a problem for me, i have to take naps during the day while my eldest is at school and youngest is asleep, something that was so much easier when i had only 1 newborn! I find it hard to keep up with housework because of this but lukily kids are worth it and i would go forever without 1 wink of sleep just to see their faces :)

    by LittleMumma 14 February 2010

  • i think one thing i am dreading is losing my sleep but it is worth it lol

    by minikirst 14 February 2010

  • @ryansmummyuk I've recently changed doctors because Ashleigh has been waiting for allergy tests for 3 years now and i kept asking and asking and they kept saying "you will be contacted when you're at the top of the list" Now i know it doesn't take 3 years and eventually moved to a different doctor after many more times off getting majorly annoyed at them and have been told she was never on the waiting list, you can imagine the complaint i wrote the old doctors :) Luckily Ashleigh's night time breathing cleared up on its own, but she still has an inhaler as the type of allergy she gets is associated with breathing problems. I never felt my old doctors had time to listen and i always had a different one which wasn't very nice as i had to explain things over and over and over again!

    by LittleMumma 5 February 2010

  • I was told they couldnt diagose them till 3!!!! Stupid doctors. I told my doctors over and over again I thought Ryan was asthmatic (I had childhood Asthma too) and they said he didnt... eventually I saw a lovely doctor when he was in the same state he'd been every other time Id took him - she took one look and said she wasnt happy with his breathing and put him on a nebuliser. When that worked she said she couldnt diagnose asthma at that age (he was 1 1/2 yrs) but she'd prescribe an inhaler as she thought it was and it works! So glad I was finally listened too... sometimes feel some doctors are too busy to listen and check properly. I was so glad I went to her!!! xxx

    by ryansmummyuk 5 February 2010

  • She's fine now thank girls, i wrote this over a week ago so she's well over the "swine flu" as i too am not completely satisfied that had she actually been seen by a doctor they would say it was swine flu. Thankfully the rest of us didn't catch it. Unfortunately though Ashleigh came home from school yesterday with a tummy bug- it's funny, she hasn't had a day off school since she started april '08 and now she's been off twice in a matter of weeks?! @YumMumSophii How old is your LO? When i thought Ash has asthma as a baby they told me they couldnt test her until she was 1! They gave her a pump though as she had trouble breathing at night, never did find out why.

    by LittleMumma 5 February 2010

  • Omg I Hopee Shess Oright :( Alfiee Hasnt been well This Week Im Beginning To Think He Has Asthma Hes Had A Cough Now Like 3 times, and has antibitics for them he also got a inhaler too and that seems to work, but hes got a cough again and is exactly the same as my younger brother who has asthma so im beginning to think thats what it is i have an appointment at doctors this week so we will find out :) x

    by YumMumSophii 4 February 2010

  • Hi hun, My little boy was diagnosed with Swine Flu a few weeks back... personally, Im not sure, I think it was just another bad chest infection as he gets them a couple of times every winter. But when I was talking about booking a doctors appt my friend mentioned swine flu and I thought 'Oh god. Even if he doesnt have it the doctors wont see him cause its the same symptoms'. Trouble is, they diagnosed any cold/flu related symptoms as swine flu now. So I went on the Flu Pandemic site and put in his symptoms - low and behold its swine flu!! He got a prescription for Tamiflu but I never used it... they recommend you dont with kids if their syptoms are not severe, as they reckon its only effective if taken within the first 48 hours of syptoms appearing (had been longer than that) and it only shortens syptoms by a day... basically its an accelerant, makes the flu worse but shorter. Like Ashleigh his temp as 42c but I was controlling it with Calpol and tepid baths, and we had his asthma inhaler for his breathing. Lots of TLC and keeping a close eye on it and he was fine! Thank god. Does annoy me though that they just decided its all swine flu.... like I said I think it was a chest infection and he should have had antibiotics, not Tamiflu, but I couldnt get him 2 a doctors! Glad Ashleigh is ok now though xxx

    by ryansmummyuk 4 February 2010