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Demii-Carla wants to know
Am i a bad mum already!?
im 16 and currently 23weeks pregnant today and im so happy and cant wait to be a mum! but every now and again i get really upset and wish i wasnt pregnant as my dad and his side of the family have basicly fucked me of and want nothing to do with me.
i love my little boy loads and cant wait for him to be born but i feel like im going to be a shit mum and i really dont know what to do about it.
ive told my midwife that im scared of getting posnatal depression but i still dont feel like i have done enough!
please someone give me some advice
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there is nothing that indecates that your going to be a bad mum at all. So that just means that your scared. I was scared too terrified that I was going to drop my Ella-Mae or let something bad happen to her by mistake. I think everyone feels this way I'm sure once your baby boy is here you will be a fantasic mum and all of these feelings about being a bad mum will vanish. I hated the whole of my pregnancy and I also felt alot of the time that I did not want to be pregnant but now that things have moved on I've never been happier (: just give it some time and everything will be fab and you will feel a mile better x
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No, course your not. I know what you mean
I am 17 but was 16 whenn i fell pregnant but when i was 30 weeks pregnant my Mum took everything off me and i mean everything e.g, bottles, dummies, sterilliser, so i had to re-buy EVERYTHING myself. She kicked out and i was in a homeless shelter accomidation. she said she didnt even want to see the baby.I did everything on my own no matter what my family said. Aslong as my little boy had everything he needed i wasnt bothered. Being a Mum just comes natrually, do not panic. You will be a FAB Mum xx Soph & baby Oliver x -
I had just turned 16 when i had my daughter and while i was pregnant i felt i had made a huge mistake and that i was going to be the worst mum ever. My dads side also disowned me... what you are feeling is completly normal. My daughter is now nearly 6 and i also have a son who is nearly 3.. they are both well behaved happy children.. im not the best mum but they are happy loved and well looked after.. so dont worry you'll be fine!
Also my kids are now very close to my dads side of the family as once they saw her they couldnt be angry anymore.. they admitted that it was through fear that they reacted the way they did. Hopefully your family will come round too -
Thats good to know, cuz sometimes I feel so guilty for feeling that way, im pregnant i cant wait too meet my little girl and sometimes i wonder if im going to be a bad mum.. im sure i wont be and cant wait too meet her. xx
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i have felt abit like this through my pregnancy...i dont ever see my dad either only at christmas...i think they just get scared as were there little girls having children.
i really wouldnt worry yourself to much as im sure as soon as your beautiful little boy arrives they wont be able to keep away.....and as for postnatal depression as long as you talk about all of your problems and not keep them in you should be fine....
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No, your not a bad mum!
Whats makes you think you'll be a crap mum?
Dont worry, most of us feel like that alot of the time, its a huge part of being a parent. You will never feel your doing enough and will always be wondering if your doing it right. But remember no-one is a perfect parents, you just need to be good enough. xxx -
hi alot of young mums feel like that its more likely pre baby blues, they will pass and you will feel scared because ;abour and childbirth is the most scariest thing to go through but once your baby is born you will forget all the pain because you will know all that pain was worth it for a georgous baby, so no your not a babd mum and im sure you will be brilliant x
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No your not guna be a bad mum n your not alone in thinking you'll mess up all of us get it, i know i sure as hell do. At one point i was told i had pre-natal depression cos i'd conviced myself i was guna be a crap mum, i can't comment about ur dads side disowning u but i can relate to it in a sence. Since falling pregnant oh's family have become really frosty towards me n have made sure i know most of them dont want me around they just want my baby once hes born i can fuck off as his aunt n sister has said to me.
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I felt like that when i was pregnant with oliver - but honestly i have shocked myself at how well i have done with him! and you will shock yourself too with your little boy. Its all natural becoming a mum, and you will do GREAT! if you dont want to get post natal depression talk about your feelings alot. Its your dads side of the family who is going to miss out on the little one not you! Like above said you will always feel like your never doing enough but there isnt a perfect parent as long as that little boy has everything he needs and all the love of you, you& him will be happy xx
by Cheeky27 31 July 2010
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